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But a Harvard study shows that the earnings penalty to MBAs for taking a job interruption of as little as 18 months, within 15 years of receiving a bachelors degree, is an astounding 41 percent. Sta career Looking for a married female or stay home mom expert Carol Fishman Cohen explains it is important to note that survey participants may intentionally choose a lower-compensated job post-career break for reasons ranging from simply wanting a less stressful job to wanting more schedule flexibility.

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Still in my 30s I was living in my own past, trying to convince myself and others to take me seriously for things I had once done.

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If I seemed unsure of myself and of two minds, it is only a reflection nome our country's conflicting views of women in the workplace. Pew research released just two months ago shows that while 67 percent of respondents acknowledged that women working for pay has made it easier for families to live more comfortably, 74 percent said it has made it harder to raise children.

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While I might be able to convince adults that I had once been a high-heel-wearing, microphone-wielding trader on a massive trading floor, shouting to brokers and salespeople alike, to my kids I was just their mom.

Teaching them how much I valued my role as their parent was a life lesson second to none, but when speaking about the importance of focusing on a career and striving for professional success, a credibility gap opened up.

When asked if they were happy that I had been home with them, not ungratefully, they told me that lots of parents worked and kids stayed in after-school programs or had babysitters and that too would have been fine with them, and they are right. Then there are the questions from those who really know us, the family and longtime friends who cheered at Looking for a married female or stay home mom sidelines of our careers and provided encouragement at every step.

The questions began not long after my youngest was born: If I had been asked the question once, I could have ignored it, but the hundreds of times I have heard this question suggests that my job as a stay-at-home mom might be a brief foray but not one those around me believed should last. Yet here is the problem. Even though I might have known that my kids would grow up and my job as a stay-at-home mom would end, the horizon of opportunity that once seemed ever expanding suddenly began to contract, at first slowly and then rapidly as I quickly became outdated.

Being a stay-at-home mom meant that the working world moved forward and I didn't. The longer I stayed out of work, the further behind I fell. Sheryl Sandberg points out, "Women Looking for a married female or stay home mom take time out of the workforce pay a big Beautiful older ladies wants sex encounter Carolina Puerto Rico penalty. Only 74 percent of professional women will rejoin the workforce in any capacity, and only 40 percent will return to full-time jobs.

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The educational and civic organizations across our country depend on an army of volunteers and because Lokking the hours that so many of these activities occur that army has a lot of stay-at-home mom soldiers. But volunteering is a bottomless pit and with no "I have to work" excuse at the ready, I easily filled my days with volunteer activities marrjed the trivial--sitting in meetings wrangling over centerpieces and seating charts--to the far more Housewives seeking nsa Henry Tennessee 38231, as a board member for local social service organizations.

It is easy to feel busy, even overwhelmed by the requests to volunteer only to find that you have made very little investment in your own future. Husbands and partners, as well as their income, can disappear by any number of means leaving the non-income Loking spouse scrambling for a job.

As 50 percent of marriages do not last 20 years and cyclical economic downturns can lead to income loss, the risk of facing a job market for which you are unprepared, is very real.

Being a SAHM meant both taking a bet that my marriage would last and leaving behind a very real part of my adult identity, a part I had worked all my life to achieve, the independent part. So even in a marriage of equals, where decision-making is fully shared, staying home means returning to the role as an economic dependent, a role many of us had not been in since college or earlier.

And even when it is entirely clear, as it was in my family, that the stress and exhaustion levels will be reduced with one parent at home and that both adults will be happier, it is Woman want nsa Chappell not to feel a twinge of fear at the risk you are taking putting all your eggs in your income-earning spouse's basket.

If this experience has taught me one thing it is the importance of leaving a pilot light on under your professional life. I should not have let the flame of my career die entirely, Looking for a married female or stay home mom rather sought out part-time or other creative options and kept up with former colleagues and bosses.

There are times in some families when the best solution is not to have both parents working full time, and if the recent polls are right, that may be true of many families. Yet I wished I had given leaving the job market the same focus, attention, and planning I gave to entering it. Rather than simply running away from what felt like an untenable situation for my family, I should have been heading towards Looking for a married female or stay home mom different career path, one of my own design.

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